Going through a divorce, even one with amicable circumstances, can be frustrating,
problematic, and disheartening. Multiple health surveys and studies have
long since reported the negative effects divorce can have on one’s
health, but what about the emotional and mental strain? Divorce can be
life-altering, and separating from a partner can put a strain on the other
aspects of your life that you counted on to remain stable. So, when you’re
going through such a trying time, how do you hold yourself steady? There
are a number of ways you can find emotional stability amid the turmoil
of divorce. Allow yourself to process the changes in your life, evaluate
your priorities, and keep yourself healthy. Being aware of your mental
health can not only ease the divorce process, it can also keep you and
your family safe.
Anticipate Changes and Find Stability
If you are going through a divorce or separation, you are bound to experience,
at the very least, a few significant alterations to your life, and one
of the healthiest things you can do is to prepare yourself for those changes
and accept that they will happen. To ground yourself, establish a routine
you can stick to. The
Canadian Mental Health Association says that establishing a routine for yourself and your children can provide
a sense of stability during an otherwise tumultuous time. Working out
daily, or even going on a daily walk, can also help you. According to the
American Psychological Association, regular exercise can normalize sleep, alleviate chronic depression, help
to cope with stress, and provide a sense of accomplishment.
Besides establishing a stable routine, you should also regularly talk about
what you’re going through. Choose a safe outlet or two, such as
close friends, trusted family members, or see a professional therapist.
There is no shame in seeking help, and sometimes speaking with someone
with an outsider’s perspective can be helpful.
Make Yourself a Priority
Make time for things that make you happy. Pick up a dormant hobby or find
something new that interests you. Learn to draw, take up yoga, sign up
for a cooking class, or join a softball league at work. No matter what
it may be, make a conscious decision to make time for yourself and your
Know the Signs
You may have heard people say that going through a divorce is similar to
grieving the loss of a loved one, and in some ways it is. According to
an article in
U.S. News, during a divorce you are predisposed to mental health conditions like
depression and anxiety. Some signs of depression are feelings of sadness,
loss of interest in normal activities, insomnia, lack of energy, changes
in appetite, slowed thinking, trouble concentrating, and suicidal thoughts.
If you experience these signs, seek help from your doctor or visit a therapist.
There is no shame in asking for help, and there are many opportunities
in nearly every community for private, affordable care for those who need
it. Be aware of the signs of clinical depression not only to keep yourself
healthy, but to keep an eye on the mental state of your spouse.
Be Aware of Your Spouse
Unfortunately, mental instability can happen all too frequently for couples
undergoing the difficulties of a divorce. Look for the signs of depression
in your partner, or be aware of any strange behavior that may put him
or her at risk, because this could consequently affect you or your children.
In some cases, mental health issues can lead to violence and should always
be handled with caution and mindfulness. According to a study by the University
of Minnesota, separated and divorced men and women represent the highest
rates of homicides between intimate partners in the United States. Stay
alert and report any strange behavior to trusted friends and family, or
local outreaches in your community. If you ever feel unsafe, call the
police and seek help immediately.
Some people may become angry and resentful during a divorce, and may blame
their spouse for their unhappiness. If you ever experience any verbal
or physical threats from your spouse, take immediate action to secure
your own safety. Call for help, reach out to authorities, use legal means
to restrict his or her access to you, and learn to defend yourself if
the need should arise. Violence in a divorce is a serious, and sometimes
life-threatening issue that everyone should be mindful of and prepared
If you are going through a divorce or separation, always remember that
you are not alone. There are support groups you can join to talk to others
in similar situations, family and friends who care for you, and trained
professionals who want to help. Be proactive about your mental health
during a divorce and make your wellbeing a priority.
Contact Advocate Law Firm, P.A.
today if you are going through a divorce and need legal representation.